Why so much hurt Coming from the Church?

I have heard this argument from so many of you. You are right to point it out, for it’s true, many people who have claimed to be Christians, religious, or churchgoers have done things throughout history that have caused so much pain and have destroyed lives.

My heart goes out to so many of you who have sat and listen to someone proclaiming Christ, yet with the same breath behaving like the devil. It’s devastating to hear stories from people who have lived with or under the shadow of evil while going to church every Sunday. I can only say, I am so sorry, I am sorry for the pain and hurt that was done to you. 

For all of us who call ourselves Christians, Christ is our Lord. If we are to be and act like him, then abuse, misuse and violation are not part of the Christian life. Christ is meek, He is our peace, He is loving, He is compassionate, truthful, just, empathetic, protector of the weak, generous, life-giving, and wise. 

The Christian life is not about what we say, but mainly about what we do. 


The way we live our lives tell of what we believe. 

If we treat people like disposable, with disrespect, and dishonour, if we are cruel, if we take advantage of the vulnerable, if we put our interest above all else, then we can profess Christianity with our lips all day long, the truth remains that we do not belong to Christ. 

For the fruit of the Spirit ( Life transformed by the Love of God through Christ) is: 

“…love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control… Galatians 5:22-23 ( Our lives should be a display of the above)

Our love for God should be paralleled with our love for one another ‘ our neighbour’  and ourselves. If we love God we will not abuse, assault or anger our neighbour. Our neighbour is anyone whom we do life with and greet starting inside our homes and continuing in our streets, work, church, park, train, community and everywhere we dwell with people. 

All of us who despise our neighbour despise their maker, our God. 

For we can’t love God and hate our neighbour, that’s not how the love of God works inside of us. So, if we say we are Christian, and we go to church but are not the church, meaning we talk the talk but we don’t walk the walk then we are only phoniness. We are what the Bible calls wolves in sheep clothing.

Wolves and sheep are two different animals with very different intentions in their mind. 

It’s true to say that all people hurt people at some point. Some of us do it unintentionally and occasionally, some in a moment of weakness or jealousy, others in a moment of need or pain. Still, the hurt we are talking about here is the damaging hurt. Hurt that is done willfully, deliberately, habitually and with full intention, those who have caused hurt like that will fully answer to God and the law of the land. People may escape justice and prison, but they will never escape the justice of God. 

God is a father to the fatherless; he gives justice to the widows, for he is holy Psalm 68:5

(If you were hurt, abused and bullied in the church I am Praying for you, know that you have God’s heart)